Behavior

Teach Kids Kindness (Watch Them Grow)

If there is one thing this world needs more of it’s a little more kindness, and it is a really admirable quality in children when they are naturally kind to others.

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It is almost always a characteristic that other people will remark upon together when they are not around either the child or the parent. Although kindness in children is not a massively rare quality, it is usually a learned characteristic and therefore very notable when adults recognize this in a younger child.

Why is kindness a strange quality for a child to possess?

Some children are naturally kinder than others, but kindness can take many forms.

Forms of kindness can include:

  • Some kind children may be a little extra affectionate; whereby they want hugs, kisses and cuddles. They may give more affection to adults, other children or both and generally be very friendly and open.
  • They may be more willing to share; whether this is food, toys or bring someone presents like pictures or flowers from the garden.
  • They may be a courteous and polite child who is trying to be helpful to people they know or even strangers.
  • It can even be seen in a child who seems to show genuine empathy towards other people who look down or upset them because they want them to feel better.
  • These types of kindness are not alien to kids but for many children, they have not learned how to separate others from themselves.
  • Children tend to think of their wants before others, mainly because they have had an entire lifetime of being waited on hand and foot by parents.
  • While science debates whether kindness is a nature or nurture quality, there are a few reasons why you should work towards teaching kindness to your child regardless.

Why teach children kindness?

If you teach children from an early age to be kind, there is a much greater chance that they will not only continue to be kind but will be willing to call out behaviors that are not kind in other children or even adults.

Reasons to teach children kindness include:

  • Teaching kids at a very early age, when they are essentially a sponge ready to soak up all of your advice, is key to instilling this trait.
  • Children are likely to learn from their parents’ example until they reach elementary school, which is when they start learning the new behaviors of their peers.
  • Teaching them how they should behave, as well as giving them real-life examples, such as giving to charity, helping people or being polite at all times to everyone, ensures that they understand what it is to show kindness.
  • No one wants their child to be “the bully” but equally no one wants their child to see a bully and not say something to a teacher or adult. Teaching kindness will help them empathize and help others they see in distress.
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Tips on how to instill kindness early on

Children are very likely to pick up on your behaviors.

Here are a few tips to instill kindness in children:

  • If you are not kind to others or are only kind to some, your children will notice this. Be ready to walk the walk when you talk the talk.
  • Be yourself with children; if your child mentions an adult behaving badly or unkind to another, make sure to speak with your child about this and agree with your child that the behavior is not right. Ask what they thought was mean and why. Make sure to validate their concerns and let them know it’s okay to say when unkindness happens.
  • If your child does not seem to be naturally kind, you can play games to help them read social cues, such as a smile or sad face. Identifying subtle body language or nonverbal cues can help them understand emotional responses from another angle and help them empathize more.
  • Make sure they acknowledge the feelings of others around them. Have they been selfish with a toy and upset another child? Or have they hurt a sibling? Talk to them in a way that does not shame the child but will get the point across in a loving way.
  • Be sure not to tease children; don’t say “toughen up” or call a child a “cry baby” as this can actually encourage them to attempt to be “tough” against a quieter or smaller child to vent their anger. Playful teasing is fine but anything that is mean spirited or borderline name calling should be avoided.